Let Go of Things We Resent In Others

“Resentment, born of weakness, harms no one more than the weak person himself.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche

“Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.” ~Dale Carnegie

“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” ~Carrie Fisher

“Without forgiveness life is governed by… an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” ~Roberto Assagioli

In another post I wrote about the Five Things We Cannot Change. When we resist what we cannot change we also harbor resentments, and those can last a lifetime.

Mature mother sitting offended on sofa in living room after quarrel with young daughter

Resentments take away our life force, even though we may feel an adrenal rush when we speak about them.

Resentments can ruin relationships, disrupt our peace of mind, drain our energy, and negatively affect our overall health and wellness. This is why we must learn to let them go and accept people for who they are. Resentment is a form of anger towards others just for being themselves, in all of their perfections and imperfections. In other words, we resent them for being human.

The reality is we are all human. We are all unique, we all make mistakes, and we all see things through our own lenses based on our background and life experiences.

When we resent others for being who they are we are really saying, “If you were only more like me, I could like/love you more.”  The last time I checked the dictionary under the word perfect I did not see anyone’s picture.

Here are 20 common things we can resent in others:

  1. Their beliefs
  2. Their looks
  3. Their success
  4. Their attitude
  5. Their possessions
  6. Their mistakes
  7. Their happiness
  8. Their style
  9. Their mannerisms
  10. Their attributes
  11. Their choices
  12. Their opinions
  13. Their perspective
  14. Their weaknesses
  15. Their level of health
  16. Their strengths
  17. Their race
  18. Their gender
  19. Their religion
  20. Their Country

People are going to be who they are and act as they will regardless of your resentment. Stop spending your precious life energy, peace of mind and time resenting others for being themselves. Your resentment is not going to change them; it is only going to hurt you and those you love, because you cannot harbor resentment and love at the same time. Choose love, forgive and let go. Your world and the world at large will be a much better place as a result.

In the wise words of Dr Wayne W. Dyer, “When given the choice between being right or being kind, choose kind.”

Wishing you peace, free of resentments and full of joy.

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