“If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed.” ~Lousie L. Hay
“Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.” ~Lewis B. Smedes
“It has been said that time heals all wounds. The truth is that time does not heal anything. It merely passes. It is what we do during the passing of time that helps or hinders the healing process.” ~Jay Marshall
“You know that you’ve healed and issue when you can talk about it and you’re not weeping, when you can speak to it and identify the lesson.” ~Iyanla Vanzant
With the loss of a relationship comes grief. Depending on the closeness and intimacy of the relationship, the heaviness of the grief can seem like too much to bear and nothing you do seems to relieve it.
The heaviness of your grief is affected by how much of your relationship was incomplete when your relationship ended.
Completion of a relationship means making peace with what could have been different, what you wanted more of, or what you wish had been better. It also means making peace with words unspoken, hurts not forgiven or apologies not said.
When someone in your life dies, all of these incomplete and unresolved feelings come bubbling to the surface and add immeasurably to your grief. Very much owing to the feeling that now it is too late. However, through Grief Recovery, you can complete what is incomplete and relieve yourself of the heavy burden brought by these feelings. This is a very important and necessary part of your healing from loss.
This need for healing also applies to loss of relationship through divorce as well. It allows you to move on in any new relationship with the freedom of resolution and recovery. You cannot move forward in your life from the loss of relationship without some form or level of completion. No amount of distraction—shopping, alcohol, sex, working, playing, gambling, or any other behavior—is going to offer the relief and peace found from completion.
A broken heart needs healing, whether from the loss of a dream, the hurt of betrayal, or a sudden change in your life and relationship. Grief recovery and completion offers this healing so you can move forward in heart, mind and body.
Until you complete your relationships, your heart will always be incomplete as well.
What relationships have you had that are still incomplete? Maybe it is time to do the work to complete them and move forward.
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