“It is an unnecessary burden to make negative judgmental assumptions about others. We are all on a journey.” ~Steve Maraboli
“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.” ~ Tony Robbins
“Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism.” ~Carl Jung
“Unforgiveness is like drinking poison yourself and waiting for the other person to die.” ~Marianne Williamson
“It seems to me that almost everyone on this planet whom I know or have worked with is suffering from self-hatred and guilt to one degree or another. The more self-hatred and guilt we have, the less our lives work. The less self-hatred and guilt we have, the better our lives work, on all levels.” ~Louise L. Hay
“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.” ~Rumi
To feel lighter of heart and spirit, practice letting go of things which do not serve your highest good, health and well-being.
We are always so quick to judge other people’s looks, behavior, or circumstances. You name it we judge it! But are we really serving ourselves and others by being judge, jury and executioner? Judgement is negative and creates stress all around.
By judging others we give ourselves this false sense of superiority, when we are really only feeding our own lack of self-worth, which is why we feel the need to judge in the first place. If someone does not live up to your “standards” in any way, shape, or form, just give them a silent blessing and then ask yourself “what is it about me that feels the need to judge this?” Learn, grow and let go.
You think judgment is hard to let go of? Well grudges are a huge hurdle for many people. We have somehow come to feel that by holding onto our grudges and resentments towards others we are in some way punishing them. The real truth, however, is that we are only punishing ourselves. We are creating negativity and stress in our lives that will drain our own life force. In the long run, holding on to resentment has the potential to create serious dis-ease in our bodies. Forgive and let go!
One thing that many people don’t truly grasp is that beliefs come from outside ourselves. They are imposed on us by a multitude of outside forces. Some beliefs serve the highest good of all and some do not. This is quite evident in history: consider the many innocent lives that have been lost throughout time, and unfortunately it is continuing today. However, in our own daily lives we have a smaller war going in within our own psyche, and that is a battle between what others want us to believe versus what we know to be our own inner truth.
The only real truth is love and any belief that works against this truth is not serving you or the world. If a belief encourages anything but loving kindness, it is not serving your highest good or the good of others. Let it go.
What is missing in your life or what are you trying to avoid feeling? Is it a nourishing relationship, a fulfilling career, a comfortable home life, authenticity, integrity, purpose, feelings of grief, a close relationship with family or friends, or spirituality and a connection to a higher power? The answer to this question can be the root cause of any addiction you may suffer from; whether alcohol, sugar, gambling, shopping or drugs.
Addictions are not surface problems. They come from a deep place within us that is longing to feel something different and something better. Find the source, heal the source and allow yourself to let the addiction go.
Holding onto grief can wreak havoc in our lives. It can create behaviors that do not serve us or our families. Many addictions as noted above can be the result of unresolved grief. Loss happens and accumulates in our cellular memory over time. It does not resolve itself over time, it only festers and becomes pain in our hearts, minds and bodies.
Grief is normal and needs to be felt. Denying our feelings is like denying we are human. Do what it takes to resolve your grief and let it go.
I have learned that guilt–whether self-imposed or other-imposed–is a futile attempt at trying to undo something that cannot be undone. We all make mistakes; this is a part of the human experience. Our purpose here is to learn, grow and to become the best possible version of ourselves.
Some of our life lessons can and will be difficult and we may not always get it right. We may trip up time and time again and we may never get the lesson. The point is, we have to forgive ourselves and others for not being perfect. Other people are attending the same school of life along with us. The teacher may be different and the lessons may be harder but we are all together none the less.
Let guilt go, make amends if you can and need to, then forgive and move forward.Click here to schedule your free call with Gina.