“Life is a mirror and will reflect back to the thinker what he thinks into it.” ~ Ernest Holmes
“We only see what we want to see; we only hear what we want to hear. Our belief system is just like a mirror that only shows us what we believe.” ~ Miguele Angel Ruiz
“The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors, reflecting their beliefs.” ~ Shakti Gawain
“Everyone and everything that shows up in our life is a reflection of something that is happening inside of us.” ~ Alan Cohen
“I’m Starting With The Man In
I’m Asking Him To Change
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change” ~ Lyrics from the Michael Jackson song “Man in the Mirror”
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Life is your Mirror; what is your mirror telling you to change?
The concept of having to change ourselves in order for things outside of us to change is a tough spiritual concept for many people to grasp or even agree with. However, whether or not we agree with it does not make it any less true. It is one of those spiritual laws that happen with or without our consent or understanding. Just like the law of gravity works even though we are not thinking about it or necessarily understand it.
The world we create for ourselves is a direct reflection of what is going on inside of us; whether that is joy, bliss, and passion or anger, jealousy, and hatred.
Have you ever had one of those days where you were on top of the world, feeling happy and grateful for being alive and noticed that everyone met you with a smile, everything went right, and nothing bothered you. Those are awesome days aren’t they?
Then there are the days where you are lower than low, feeling down, angry at someone, or critical of everything and everyone. Notice how you seem to encounter angry people, nothing goes right, and everything and everyone bothers you. These are the days when blowing up over the slightest things just seems like the only possible reaction available.
The reality is that YOU ARE creating your reality. You are attracting what you are giving. You are seeing in others what you are feeling within yourself. It is not just random luck or ill luck.
We create what we think about and bring it into our reality, like it or not, believe it or not.
This means that if we want anything outside of us to really change, including people, we have to be the ones to change; waiting for other people to change or our circumstances to change so we can or will is futile and is superficial at best.
I have found this to be the most dramatic in relationships, because they are such a big part of our lives and can be a driving force in how we feel about ourselves. We are looking for other people, particularly our romantic partners, to make us happy, complete us or approve of us. When they are not living up to the task we have placed on them we blame them for our feelings.
An essential part of becoming healthy is taking responsibility for creating our reality and in doing so assuming the power to change it. As long as the problem is outside of us we have given our power away.
When you find yourself judging someone, ask yourself what is it within YOU that is creating the judgment. Maybe they are reflecting back to you a part of yourself that you don’t want to own, maybe they are reflecting back to you what you are not giving; such as kindness, love, compassion, forgiveness and acceptance.
You may need to change your perspective, you may need to change your attitude, you may need to forgive, you may need to heal, you may need to grow, you may need to accept, you may need to let go, you may need to let go of the need to control, you may need to… the list goes on. The point here is that you need to be the change, not the other person.
What do you need to change about yourself to reflect back to you the life you want, the relationships you want, and the health and happiness you want?
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