“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” -Albert Ellis
“Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you.” -Jim Rohn
“What matters is to live in the present, live now, for every moment is now. It is your thoughts and acts of the moment that create your future. The outline of your future path already exists, for you created its pattern by your past.” -Sai Baba
This time of year brings with it moments of reflection on the year that has passed. We can think about all of the good things that happened and we can also think about all of the things that we didn’t do, accomplish, or change.
Most of us – not all, but many – take this time to make resolutions about the upcoming year. We commit to eating better, losing weight, giving up something that we know is not healthy for us, spending more time with loved ones, exercising more, relaxing more, and the list goes on and on. Most of these resolutions also have a “should” attached to them coming from a place of desperation versus inspiration, which is typically why we don’t tend to keep them.
I am no stranger to making these resolutions. And I am no stranger to breaking them as well. The unfortunate part is that with each resolution we make and then break we feel bad about ourselves, and beat ourselves up for not being more committed or dedicated. This can become a downward spiral and pattern of self-sabotage.
How many of us have made resolutions for this year and have, already a few days into, it broken them?
So is the answer to stop making resolutions, like many have? If you don’t make resolutions, then you can’t break them. I’m not so sure it is that is the complete solution. Maybe the answer in what kind of resolutions we actually make.
With the New Year comes the opportunity for a fresh start, to learn from our past year, to look at our lives and see what patterns we have that keep us stuck, and to recommit to living our best lives.
Part of that commitment is looking at what we don’t like or want to change, and then looking at what we want and what we need to do to get there.
- What would make this year better than last year?
- What would make this year a great year?
- What could you do differently to make this year the best year of your life?
Look at last year and learn from it. If you need help seek it out. If you need support ask for it. If you need to heal your body or your mind find out what is available for you and take action, hire and work with someone who can assist you.
To make this year the best year of your life, take responsibility for making it happen. This is the only resolution you really need to make for yourself. Everything you need to do will follow from this one commitment. Become, and stay, unwaveringly committed to becoming Responsibly Healthy and self empowered. From this one act of self love, you will know and find your next steps.
Find the inspiration to become a better version of yourself by taking personal responsibility, and you will have no choice but to succeed and make 2014 the best year of your life. Each year that we do become a better, healthier, stronger, more determined version of ourselves is always our best year.
Reflect, learn, take responsibility and inspired action.
Make it happen!
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