“It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” -Marianne Williamson

Self esteem

I have learned from my own life that the greatest gift we can give a child is high self esteem. It is like a flame inside us that illuminates all that is wonderful about each and every one of us.

Yet, sadly there are many of us who have very small flames. When we were born our flames were high and over the years they had water thrown on them by our parents, friends, teachers, and relatives. Some of it was well meaning and maybe some of it was not. The point is, it happened.

We were not taught how to keep out flame live from within, so we learned very quickly how to do it from without. Looking for other people, things, and events to keep it burning, but deep down knowing it wasn’t enough.

There are many things we can do that come from within to keep our flame alive: being generous, being kind, being loving, being of service, doing volunteer work, following our bliss and doing what we love, loving another and being loved in return, taking care of our physical emotional and spiritual health, and becoming the best version of ourselves.

There are many things we can also do that come from within to reduce our flame almost to the point of extinguishing it; gossip, judgment, criticism, violence, abuse of others, abuse of self, saying yes when we mean no, hurting others, lying, cheating, not following our dreams, not being authentic, and anything else that does not contribute to our well being.

We may not have been given the gift of self-esteem growing up, but we can certainly give it to ourselves now. It really is never too late to find your flame and keep alive and burning.

Are your actions and choices adding to your flame or diminishing it?

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