The Art and Style of Self-Confidence

“What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve.” ~Norman Vincent Peale

“Public opinion is a weak tyrant compared with our own private opinion.” ~Henry David Thoreau

“Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” ~Thomas Carlyle

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

“Unfortunately, unless we’re focused on building up our courage, which gives us our self-confidence and all that we need to make quantum change in our lives, the voice of fear will always take the lead inside our minds.” ~Debbie Ford

Have you ever noticed an individual who was self-confident, not necessarily to the point of arrogance, but just that it came naturally for them?

Some individuals have no real issues with self-confidence. Do you often wonder why that is? How is it that some people just walk through life without ever doubting themselves or their intuition while others struggle with this issue?

Self-confidence, yes, is something that some people seem to be born with. But thankfully, self-confidence is an achievable and learnable goal.

Of course, even the most self-confident person has occasional issues with insecurity and self-doubt. No one gets away totally unscathed with these feelings. However, certain individuals may be more resilient when things don’t go according to plan and they may be able to rebound a lot quicker than those of us who have little or no self-confidence.

Thankfully, there are ways around having little or no self-confidence. While it might take some practice, it is certainly something you can learn.

Put it in Writing

Even though we all have our strengths, we nevertheless tend to focus on our own weaknesses. If you find yourself in this category, then perhaps it is time to put pen to paper. Start making a list of your good qualities and next to that start making a list of your achievements.

When you list your good qualities try to be very specific and show yourself your own uniqueness. For example, don’t just write that you are organized. Be specific and note that you have wonderful time management skills which allow you to be highly organized.

Every time you feel discouraged, take a look at your list of good qualities and your accomplishments. It is so easy to beat ourselves up, but seeing our positive qualities in writing makes it easier to remember we have already accomplished so much.

Practice Makes Perfect

Practice being self-confident by taking on the look and feel of a person with great assurance. Decide you are intentionally going to walk into a room and be self-confident. Once you have made that decision, walk in smiling and make brief eye contact, looking up instead of down. Fake it until you make it as the saying goes.

Try this even if it is just briefly. Walk into an event and practice being confident. Play a character. Practice makes perfect. Once you have succeeded this one time, you will find it gets easier and easier to take on self-confidence and to have it become natural.

The Art of Looking Good

When you look good, you feel good. Try to tweak your appearance a bit more when taking on self-confidence. A new haircut, a little bit of weight loss, or new outfit are all ways to change the way you look and feel. It is a trickledown effect.

However, when it comes to looking good, don’t copy everyone else as far as your education, career, choice of haircut, and clothing style are concerned. Get in touch with the real you and before you know it, you will shine through with real, authentic self-confidence every time.

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